'open minded' gone wrong

warning: this post is going to be a rant. those who claim themselves 'open minded' should've not got triggered by this and respond wisely. 

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hm, how should I start this topic? 

how about we start from this meme:

and this:

this is what happens in this post-modern era. 

A few weeks ago I saw a tweet through my friend's IG story, (it was in Indonesian) and it was said that "you're not open minded if you agree to LGBTQ+, have been questioning god, yet you still insult those who still choose to be conservative". and I couldn't fucking agree more to that!

I think the definition of 'open-minded' itself has been narrowed to something specific only. You are only considered as 'open-minded' if you agree and support post-modern ideologies, or if you agree with what other people believe in, which I actually have no idea whether those ideologies are actually good for the human race or is it only for the sake of pop culture. 

I even kind of dislike those who call themselves 'open-minded' and tell people to do so. It sounds a bit cocky, to be honest... and too subjective. Imagine someone telling you to be open minded just because you disagree with his/her ideology after you listen to their explanation. (indonesian mode) "Open minded dong jadi orang...!" Sounds rude, doesn't it?

The thing is, the main point of open minded does not mean agreeing or disagreeing certain ideologies. Agreeing or disagreeing depends on what we believe is true, and surely every individual has their own definition of what's right and what's wrong - what should be agreed and what should not. The actual point of open minded is that you have a willing to know something new or different from your perspective, despite being agree to it or not. 

To be honest, to know something different from my perspective is still a hard thing to do for me. Not that I'm being sceptical, it's because I'm just really afraid of slowly losing the faith that I've been holding on. The easiest example: afraid of losing the faith of God and religion after seeking deeper about the true existence of God. I'm not saying that I'm a religious person - cuz I'm actually not - but I, to be honest, sense through heart His existence and influence in me. Like many people say, that kind of sense cannot be measured since it's a matter of belief. 

But these days, I'm trying to seek deeper about two hot topics related to 'open-minded' things: LGBTQ+ and religion. These have been such a sensitive yet interesting topic but I actually have not discussed this yet even with my close friends cuz I know how sensitive these  topics are. And no, searching for some topics does not mean I'm going to leave what I believe by now instantly. That's not how it works. 

I've been searching for topics and discussions like :

• the reasons why people do not believe in God, 
• scientific research on LGBTQ+
• Nietzsche's "God is dead"
• LGBTQ+ as a culture or is it actually real (like do a person really believe that he (for example) is somewhat a girl trapped in boy's body, vice versa)

But I'm not going to discuss it by now since it's midnight already and I really need to sleep. 

the main point of this post that I want to tell y'all, is that insulting those who don't think the same thing to you does not make you an open minded. And i think it is better for you to do some deeper research before deciding whether you believe/support it or not. As sometimes, people start to support some ideologies (being gay/trans, leaving religion/becoming atheist) because of the influence of their surroundings.

and no, supporting/agreeing ideologies because majority of people do so, does not instantly make you an open-minded. To know whether it's worth for you to support/agree or not, like what I said, do some research.

Hope you are having a good day. :)